Maintaining the Bliss: Guest Post by Jacin of Lovely Little Details

I’m so thankful for Mrs. Jacin Fitzgerald. This woman has been such an amazing friend and supporter to me and I’m so thankful for our friendship. Thank you Jacin for posting while I’m away getting tan on my honeymoon!

I am so happy that Claire invited me to guest post while she is off celebrating the most amazing day of her life, marrying the man of her dreams!  I couldn’t be happier for the two of them and wish them nothing but happiness and blessings as they start their lives together as a married couple.

Speaking of married couples…  remember back in the day when you’d be dating someone and those first three months were absolute bliss?  It’s kind of like when you watch the bachelor.  The people on this show date each other for a month, go on fantastic vacations and experience dates like most would never experience even once in a lifetime.  They are living in a state of bliss, before the realities of life come back in to play, and then once the vacation is over, it can be challenging to maintain that state of bliss.  Well, the same thing happens in married life, too.  It can be hard to remember to put the computer down, turn off the blackberry, and spend more time doing things together instead of always worrying about the stresses of daily life.  By doing things together, you are working as a team, spending quality time, and just enjoying each other’s presence – the very thing that led to your marriage in the first place.

Me and Pat 🙂

I recently purchased a book while perusing knick-knacks at Anthropologie called Happiness for Two by Alexandra Stoddard.  I loved the book because it makes you take a step back and think about all the things you could be doing together, rather than all the things you tend to do alone; from the simplest task to adventurous excursions.  And of course, I wanted to share some of these ideas with you!

First off, When You Are Together, Be Together.  Sounds simple, right?  Well if you’re both out to dinner and “liking” someones Facebook status from your iPhone or checking your email from your blackberry, you’re not really 100% there.  Leave the phone at home- this is your together time.  Any other distractions are just that – distractions from the two of you, taking you apart for even those brief moments.  So I challenge you to think of the ways you can just be together – folding laundry, chopping onions, going for a walk – sans blackberry – will make your time even more special.

Next, Bring Flowers Home.  Easy as that.  If you see some lovely blooms on your way home, pick them up.  And every girl I know loves to receive flowers – and even the simplest petals can cheer up a room and brighten a day.  Emerson once said “Earth laughs in flowers”, and when we’re happy, we’re happy.

Lastly Be More Sentimental and Indulge Each Other.  What does this mean?  Think about each other’s personality and needs – there is no need to empty your wallets on each other at all times but if you see a little trinket at the store that reminds you of him, pick it up.  “When we share sentiments, we create moments as big as years”, poet John Keats said, and these moments create the memories we will carry with us forever.  So literally – be more sentimental and indulge each other – at least once in a while!

Whether you find ideas in a book or come up with them on your own, if you’re always on the lookout for a special way to add a bit of sunshine to your lives, your bliss will never run out.


jacin {lovely little details}



Filed under Claire Elliot Wedding, marriage tips

11 responses to “Maintaining the Bliss: Guest Post by Jacin of Lovely Little Details

  1. Jacin, I love this post! It’s so true. We only answer calls or texts if they’re really important when we go out. What we really struggle with is getting enough genuine together time at home. Of course there needs to be plenty of time where we’re home but working on separate things, whether I’m editing photos or either of us is working on homework. It can get tough to make ourselves put down whatever we’re working on and spend time together. One of my favorite ways to remedy this is to just go for a walk together. That way there is no computer distraction, and we are free to just talk without doing “one more thing.”

  2. Wonderful advice Jacin! I loved this guest post. 😀

  3. thanks for having me, Claire!! so honored to guest post on your lovely blog and can’t wait to hear all about your big day!! xo

  4. You nailed it Jacin 🙂 GREAT POST! We try to cook dinner together followed by sitting and eating sans phones. So simple, but a huge help for our “together” time. 🙂

  5. Your advice is fantastic, Jacin 🙂 It’s nice to get this reminder when you’ve been in a relationship for a long time. This is going to jump-start me being present in me+eric’s relationship. Thank you!

  6. This truly is the perfect post.

  7. This is just lovely because it is important to keep the spark in marriage. My husband and I got in a rut since he would get so tired from his military training he is doing right now. We recently found getting away even in your own town is the perfect “restart” button. Stay in a nice hotel in town to feel like you are on vacation together and have some champagne! No burdens, responsibilities or phone calls. Make it like the honeymoon!

  8. What an awesome reminder! We have yet to being the ‘newlywed’ phase, but I will definitely keep this in mind – thank you!

  9. The best advice….are you not the best wedding blogger on the internet Jacin! ❤ Ok Im going to stop stalking you now! 😉 It really is great to post this advice and say it and read it and really feel and mean it. Life only comes around once.

  10. Oh this is such an amazing post!!!! As it is sooooo dang true! Relationships do take work, as do most things in life! It doesn’t have to be hard and difficult but you must work at it. And after the honeymoon is over and the everyday sets in you kind of get in a train of thought that…this is it? Always remember the reasons why you fell in love with each other…and with the advice above you will be great shape for the “rest of your lives”!!!!


    p.s. – so picking up this book now as I am totally intrigued!!! thanks jacin ;-)))

  11. 🙂 Great advice Jacin! Especially leaving the blackberry at home!

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